FIERCENESS
“Love the one you’re with if you can’t be with the one you love.” How would you feel if that was the reason your man or woman was with you? What if you knew or overheard them telling a friend they are with you because it’s better than being alone? Ouch right? What if you don’t hear it, but the signs are clear as day, that he’s just not that into you!
It’s funny my friends and I discuss how men are seemingly settling these days. Too lazy to go after what they truly want when it comes to building worthwile relationship with someone. Some aren’t up for the challenge or the fight. Some admit they just can’t be bothered getting to know someone knew. They are avoiding the whole awkwardness of dating someone new. Yes men actually told us that. It’s just easier being with someone they’ve already spent time with. My friend asked one of her friends why he’s with a particular skankbag he’s been messing with for a couple years, he responded, “I like her big breasts.” Another one dated the most annoying Fran Drescher voiced heifer and we all knew they weren’t a match. We came to the conclusion she was just comfortable, thank God that ended. *Shudder* I heart Fran and will only tolerate that voice coming from her.
But here’s my main point for this rant of mine: You connive and manipulate your way into his life. You date, he marries you. You know he loves someone else and always will, yet you gloat that he’s yours because he chose you, he gave you THE RING. Really Gollum is that enough for you? Do you come to your senses and bounce or do you stay and gloat because of the ring? What exactly did you win, my precious?
Nikster 
Answer to your question ***NOT ONE RASS TING!!!
Precisely. Not one rass ting!
i couldnt bear to have someone feel that way about me. but as you knw my recent situation i as such that i liked him more than he clearly liked me. it hurts and im so numb but as everyones told me hes done me the best thing by leaving as i deserve better. and my uncle i heart him like u heart fran! said dont prostitute myself. dont be his whore as he’ll use me. so no i dont think id settle. i guess if i tried to hang around him i would be settling but in time ill hopefully meet the man that God has out there for me but i dont think anyone should settle. its better to wait to find decency then take second best right?
good post
No I can’t imagine it would be a good feeling. Everone deserves to be with someone who genuinely loves and wants to be with them.
its hell. hurts like a motherf*&^!@. i take things to heart . i cant think like a douchebag. but never will i settle again
I only go where I’m wanted. I’ve been in a situation or 2 where folk may be saying things to me and showing interest BUT expressing to others who they’d rather be with.Unfortunately for them I find out everything and then I leave…..then they want me later.
Yes luv, they never know what they’ve got ’til it’s gone!
Alot of women are living like this everyday. They move in with a guy have children with him and just try to maintain. When you know them personally you feel for them. You know they could do better.
Nice Blog BTW.
Yes many women are living this life, but some of them bring it on themselves. Some manipulate to get that ring, when they know in their hearts their man’s heart is somewhere else. For the one’s who are truly clueless, I can feel pity for them for awhile and advise them. If they take the advice or figure it out for themselves, good. If not, stop bitching about it, because I’m done being sorry for them.
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